There’s a new me in town and she is here to stay! She is one who values, most importantly herself and all areas of her life are illuminated with integrity. Any relationship in her life exists in a beautiful balance of encouragement and honesty. She is a woman who values her PERSONAL POWER which resonates from a place of both strength and grace. I found the perfect explanation of the type of personal power I am referring to that I would like to share with all of you. This description is courtesy of Psychology Today and the link for the full article can be found at the bottom of this blog. Here is how they define Personal Power:
Personal power is based on strength, confidence, and competence that individuals acquire in the course of their development. It is self-assertion, and a natural, healthy striving for love, satisfaction and meaning in one's interpersonal world. This type of power represents a movement toward self-realization and transcendent goals in life; its primary aim is mastery of self, not others. Personal power is more an attitude or state of mind than an attempt to maneuver or control others. It is based on competence, vision, positive personal qualities, and service. When externalized it is likely to be more generous, creative and humane than other forms of power.
This definition is beautiful to read and I encourage all of you to hang it up somewhere to remind you to strive for a powerfully filled life. Today I would like to share with you a little about my personal journey to a more powerful life and hopefully offer some insight as to how to gain MORE personal power in YOUR life.
My old self was someone who handed out their personal power like it was communion on Sunday. I would feel really strong and confident about something and then the slightest wind of distaste or disagreement and poof! There you go whatever I have…it’s yours. I so badly wanted to be loved that I would give away my personal power in order to please whoever it was that needed pleasing. There was a point in my life where I let someone else physically, mentally and emotionally abuse me because I thought they were more in need and deserving than myself. As you can imagine this led to A LOT of internal dissatisfaction. WHY? Why did I consider everyone else more important than me? My best explanation is that I was focusing my personal power outside of myself. My foundation of power was built on the assumption that I would continuously receive the praise and encouragement I needed to keep my strength. This is like building a house on sand. This led me to my next realization…
Has my lack of personal power led to the current state of my health? Could my health issues (particularly structural issues) be caused or perpetuated by this character defect? I am not suggesting that I am the only one to blame for my scoliosis or autoimmune disease, but living with chronic pain I try to find every way in which I am participating in my illness. Letting anyone trash your house would leave it in poor shape. Why would the logic not remain the same with the foundation of our body? If we do not love, cherish and honor our ‘homes’ then how can we expect our bodies to be functioning optimally? The beauty is we always have a chance to rebuild our foundation. The best way to love and honor your body is by having a healthy dose of personal power to perpetuate your road to recovery; this includes being an active participant in our life. As I stated earlier, even if you have not lived a powerful life up until now TODAY is your day! Let’s discuss some steadfast ways to increase & exercise your personal power:
Remove habits that no longer serve you: this one can sometimes be difficult unless we take the time to become a detached observer of our life and view what habits are no longer serving our higher purpose. A good way to immediately notice these habits is to evaluate how they are affecting your time.
Say no when necessary: For those of us that are people pleasers we know all too well of the harmful effects of overextending ourselves and saying yes even when we may not be able to. Having healthy boundaries with others means saying no when you cannot or do not want to be involved. After all, you are the only one responsible for your happiness.
Meditate: this will help you become more in touch with your authentic desires and allow you to weed through the negative self talk and listen to the true desires of your heart.
Activate your 3rd Chakra: The 3rd chakra is located in the solar plexus and is your power center. It is the source of our will and contains our identity. Activities we can include in our daily life that activates our power chakra include: swimming, jogging and biking. Any physical activity will awaken and recharge your body providing more power. If it is more of an emotional block located in this chakra more mindful activities are suggested, such as; yoga, Pilates, tai chi and walking.
Having a healthy amount of personal power affects all areas of your live including your physical well-being. I encourage all of you to take some time today to harness your personal power, your Higher self will thank you.
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May you always be true to you.
Love & light,
Danae
Miss Nutrish